Saturday 13 October 2012

A Little Life Update

Hello!

I don't normally post specifically about my life but a lot has been happening recently so I thought it was about time I wrote about it. I've not posted anything in three days and it's driving me crazy!

Almost four weeks ago now I made the decision to split from my boyfriend. We'd been together for around three years and lived together. It wasn't an easy decision at all but I know that it's the right one. Nothing bad has happened; we just grew apart and I had been feeling miserable for quite a while. We were always waiting for something to come along and make us better; finishing university, moving, finding jobs. I realised that we shouldn't need something else to improve our relationship and I felt as though we were just putting off going our separate ways. I will always care about him and wish him the best for his future. I'm concentrating on becoming the confident, independent girl I was before. 

I found a new flat but I'm still waiting on the paperwork to come through so that I can move. It's really difficult to live with someone you've broken up with; I wouldn't advise it but I don't have a choice at the moment. I need to move within the next week so can everyone please keep their fingers crossed?! I'm going to be living by myself which is both scary and exciting at the same time. I'm looking forward to making it my own without anyone telling me that I have too many cushions!

On a more positive note, I was offered a job yesterday. A job I really wanted. I'm beyond delighted about that and can't wait to start a week on Monday. I've also got to thank my friends for being the best people in the world over the past few weeks. The lovely things they've done for me make me want to cry more than anything else has! Some of those friends are probably reading this right now; I want to thank you for the comments, tweets, emails and anything else you've said or done in the last month. I've appreciated every single one of them and don't know how I'll be able to thank you enough. 140 characters doesn't sound like a lot but sometimes they mean so much.

If you find yourself in a similar position to me or if you're struggling with The Big Stuff in life please don't be afraid to make a decision to keep someone else happy or because  the consequences would be too difficult. You're all a lot stronger than you think and sometimes you just have to be brave and selfish. Your happiness is ultimately your priority and if something is making you miserable it's up to you to change it if you can. You'll soon realise that you're not alone.

With love,

Stace xx


15 comments:

  1. Aw sorry to hear you've been a through a break-up, well done about the job though and good luck with everything :)

    Sophierosehearts x

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  2. It must have taken a lot to write that Hun. You've been very strong and brave. I'm so glad things are finally coming together. No one deserves it more than you x

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    1. You're a star Andie - I'm always going to be grateful for how lovely you've been.xx

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  3. Congrats on getting a job you really wanted. But it sucks that you broke up with your bf. I totally understand though you need to put yourself first, and if you are not happy nothing works... I don't have a relationship but I am currently still looking for a job and living at home... It is driving me insane, I try to remain positive but it is hard after so many months... Mentally it is draining me like no other..

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    1. I'd been looking for a while too - if you need to chat drop me an email. Just try to stay motivated.xx

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  4. You know where I am if you need me darling <3
    You're so brave for posting this! <3 and congrats on the job - seems like everything is starting to fall together for you :) xxx

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    1. I know. We need that coffee soon! And thank you.xx

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  5. Aw I'm so glad about your job, well done mrs!! Hope you get into your new flat quickly as well!
    Well done for writing this xx

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    1. Thanks hun, we'll be neighbours again soon!xx

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  6. So pleased for you lovely changing things when your not happy is so hard to do you've been very brave so many people just go on feeling that way and as you say waiting for everything to change xx Good luck with the new job and with the new flat x love to teddy bear too xx

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  7. I have my fingers crossed for you sweetie. Good luck with the move & the new job. Sounds like you have lots of exciting things to look forward too. Life will be how you want it to be before you know. Big hugs. xxx

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  8. Been there - its hard but it makes you stronger ;) Fantastic about the job and the new flat x

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  9. I hope all this is behind you now. How are things 2 months after?
    lots of love and all the best xx
    liloo/@tsunimee xx

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